About

I'm a 43 year old, twice divorced mother of 4 super rad kids. I’m in recovery and have had my share of ups and downs when it comes to staying sober. Writing has always been my “therapy” and these posts tell the story of a journey that hasn’t always been much to talk about.

Many of you have been here since the She Is Perfectly Imperfect days - the blog I started when I got out of rehab in 2015. I shut that one down in 2017 when I started Finding 40 - the chronicles of my second divorce, relapse and - essentially - nervous breakdown. As I’ve gotten my crap together little by little, the posts have gotten fewer and farther between.

I’m now the Director of Nursing for a drug and alcohol detox and rehab facility and I get to process the joys and heartbreaks of recovery with clients every day. It’s the kind of thing I’ve dreamt of doing ever since I entered detox myself and I pinch myself on the regular when I get thinking of how good life has turned out, in spite of everything.

A year and a half ago, I started a book called Dude…it’s fine. Again, it was a way to process a time of life that I was struggling to make sense of, but it was a little “rougher” around the edges than my typical blog posts. I wasn’t sure there was an audience for it so I wrote what I wanted without worrying about anyone else. Fast forward to today and not only am I busy with kids and my career, I’ve started grad school to boot. The idea of finishing a book has appropriately taken a back seat to life right now, but at the encouragement of friends, family and faithful readers over the years, I’ve decided to turn the chapters of “Dude” into a new and improved blog.

I apologize in advance for the nature of these posts. (A “sorry, not sorry” kinda thing.) These are unfiltered, a little TMI, and not for everyone. But if you know me, you know this is ME. And why I’ll probably be single until the end of time. Dude…it’s fine. It’s totally fine.